God is my strenght
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I woke up this morning feeling so down and I did not even understand why. Around 5.30 am, I’m lying on my bed and I have no idea why I feel so sad and because of that I do not want to do anything but cry. At 6 am, I get a call from a friend and he asks for us to pray and the answer I wanna give him is “no because I am sad with my life today and I don’t understand why so I don’t want to talk to God. But politely, I tell him that I’m gonna take a shower and call him after.

As I am in the shower scrubbing away the hands of every guy that has ever touched me, I start to tell God that he is my strength and he has done great things and he will keep doing great things. I just kept repeating these words to myself till I stepped out of the shower.

So I go back to my room and I call my friend and I lead us into an opening prayer and then he says to me “I feel like God wants us to pray about our hearts.” He continued by saying “sometimes we feel betrayed in our hearts and that makes us very sad. But imagine how Jesus felt when he chose Judas to be his disciple but still Judas did not allow God to change his heart and he ended up betraying Jesus.”

Sometimes, it is very easy for us to forget that our hearts are very fragile and when we decide to carry our hearts in our fragile hands- it will fall. The great thing though is that when each and every morning we give our hearts over to God regardless of how we are feeling- God takes hold of them and he places them in his secured hands. The word of God says in Psalm 37: 3 that we should “trust in the Lord and do good and dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.” The hands of God are safe and that is where our hearts need to dwell.

After I prayed with my friend, I got dressed and as I was leaving the house I said to God: “father, I know I am feeling sad, but I will not let the devil make me forget about your greatness- take my heart now and do what you do best.” I put my earphones in my phone and I started listening to songs of praise.

I am writing this post to God because sometimes I really don’t appreciate his consistency in my life enough. No matter how I am feeling- his holy spirit always sends me a helper and he empowers me. God shout out to you for always keeping me grounded in you. It is a privilege to be able to subject my body to the spirit of God and win in all areas of my life.

Shout out to you friend for allowing God to use you to speak to me at my darkest hour today. Everybody needs friends who are in tune with the spirit of God whom at all times can be vessels for God almighty to speak through to you.

And shout out to you reading this- don’t ever suffer alone. Don’t let the devil make you think that isolation or time alone can help you through your darkest times. You have people around you whom I really hope are ready at any time to hold hands with you or be at the other end of the phone and pray that depressing spirit away. If you do not have friends like that, pray and ask God to send you some. A few years ago, I prayed that prayer and up until today God keeps sending me amazing people who are not scared to tell me to do the right thing.

God be with you as you give your heart to him to carry in his safe and holy hands.




OK so I walk into the office this morning and a co-worker comes up to me and gives me a handshake whilst wishing me congratulations that women were given the right to vote 100 years today. I said thank you because I was not about to take him to feminist school by educating him on how the suffragettes fought for their rights and thus it was not an achievement. It was 8am in the morning and I had just spoken to my father God about my day so I was not about to ruin it.

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So then it came to me, why don’t I just write about it? So Im gonna do just that. First of all, yes it is 100 years ago today that women age 30 and owned a property were given the right to vote in elections in the UK. I mean all the members of the suffragettes had to endure so much just for their views as citizens of the country to also be seen as credible to a bunch of men sitting in parliament.

The suffragettes indeed paved the way for modern western feminism. However, I do not think what they did is an achievement (in the way we generally understand achievement) and I am going to explain why.

These brave women realised the importance of their womanity being acknowledged and thus decided to take action. It’s like someone demanding for justice to be served against a thieve who stole something from him/her- its not an achievement, it is their right as a citizen in a civil society to see justice served fairly. So the suffragettes were trying to bring humanity back to their senses because like seriously… who even came up with the idea that women shouldn’t be given the right to vote? It sounds so uneducated and just strange. Women are rational beings like men so I don’t understand how men were seen as able to choose political representatives but women weren’t.

And the most worrying part of this all is that even after 100 years of these women risking their lives to make a way for women; gender inequalities are still prevalent in society. Women are still seen as second class citizens in many parts of the world for reasons I still do not understand because they do not make sense at all. Women are still being abused based on the factor that they are women. Even worse, in other parts of the world, it is still being debated if girls should be given the chance to go to school. – Like seriously?

But you know what, on this day, I’m going to happy myself knowing that there are people all over the world working so hard to ensure that women and girls are fully counted as part of humanity.

So cheers (I’m drinking peppermint tea right now) to me being a great African woman from Ghana who loves women and is going to do everything according to the will of God to see girls and women do well in every area of social life.

And cheers to every woman! Wherever you are, whatever you are doing, Thank you for being a woman and remember you can achieve anything! Let us keep fighting for the human rights of every woman to be acknowledged.


Why am I still a feminist in 2018?

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The answer to this is that- I will never stop being a feminist because I get the privilege to stand for equality, I get the opportunity to call out men and women out on direct and indirect acts of discrimination and inequality. As well, as a feminist in this era where people blindly think that women are now equal to men so we don’t need all this talk on feminism, I get to write and tell people no.

Let me tell you something, the difference between the positions of women now compared to that of 1926 is that- now there are laws that actually says you can’t fire a woman from a job because she is pregnant. And the heart breaking part about this is that these laws are mainly in the so-called developed parts of the world where most of the female population are educated. I mean I don’t think it’s all rosy in Europe and the land of the free (that’s the undeserved nickname of the USA) because direct and indirect inequalities are still skyrocketing in lots of institutions there.

Today alone, I have read 3 articles published online on sexual harassment and abuse against women; and remember, these are the ones that are reported. So imagine all the abuse some women will face today by men in their lives and men they do not know all because they are women and you and I will never hear anything about it.

Now I tell you again, I will never stop being a feminist because we are in 2018 and some men still think the best way to get a woman to listen to him is by getting in her face and shouting at her and telling her he will beat her and get away with it.

A few days ago,  I almost cried when I saw a video of a man who got in the face of Lydia Forson (Ghanaian actress) and threatened to beat her because she was gathering evidence of the sexist nature of the man in question.

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Let me just pause here for a second and tell you how technology has somehow helped women- Lydia knew straight away that to be able to take this incident to the authorities, or even tell her fans on social media about it- she would need proof because of course nobody would believe a woman telling them that a man physically, verbally or emotionally abused her without proof! Having a phone allowed Lydia to show what had happened to her.

Secondly, technology through social media has given women multiple platforms to share their stories and call out on any form of abuse against them.

Thirdly, technology from a personal point of view has given women more confidence to be women because nowadays, there are lots of women behind their phones and laptops ready to rain on your parade if you ever get it twisted on your dealings with the female population. I love technology for all these reasons.

Now back to me forever being a feminist- most women in 2018 are still encountering abuse and discrimination in all areas of life. What some people don’t seem to understand is that, if the reason for a human being suffering any pain whether it be physical or not is due to their biological sex then as a society we are not developed and we are on the verge of failure. I say we are on the verge of failure because despite all the bad things in this world… God has still blessed us with meat pies, bofrot, waakye (amazing Ghanaian dishes), Shea butter and green tea so we haven’t completely failed as a human race.

And just a quick reminder for anyone who has forgotten or does not know at all… the development of girls and women in all areas of social life is a key factor to national development in every country according to the UN and other developmental studies academics. So I don’t care how high up on the list of OECD (Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development) countries your nation finds itself; if women and girls are still suffering from gender inequalities in that country then it is not developed.

I can just keep writing because we are only 25 days into 2018 but a day has not gone by where I have not read about a woman being subjected to some form of abuse or discrimination just because she is a woman.

In a few years’ time, I am going to bring children into this world and I am going to have to help my sons and daughters understand how this world has been trying to put women like their mother in a box to fit some silly socially constructed ideas about gender. After I do that, I will spend the rest of my life with the help of God to bring my children up to be great men and women… then we will just have generations of great men and women. Oh how I cannot wait.


A few stories in the past few days about girls and women being abused around the world

A 7 year old girl raped and killed in Pakistan:

Murder, rape of 8-year-old Pakistan girl sparks protests around country


New mothers in Kenya allegedly being raped in hospitals: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-africa-42746179


A group of women gets groped in Dorchester hotel in London at a ‘fancy’ charity event:




WOMEN of the year 2017.

OK so 2017 is finally over! I’m really happy that it is because I feel like 2017 was just like in a rush to finish. In my personal life, I felt like I had so much to do in the year 2017 that I was always rushing to get something done so that I could start on the next thing. However, I had a really good year overall and I achieved so much and I give thanks to God because He really showed me what I am capable of doing when I lean on him and not depend on my own strength or understanding. God is real ya’ll.

Anyway, lemme move on to what this post is actually about. OK so today I was just thinking back through 2017 and all the people I met and the influence they had in my life. I have an amazing group of friends and during the year 2017 they all really influenced me in positive ways. However, there are some women I know who really made a big impact in my life in the year 2017. The beautiful thing about them is that they all did not even know that their lives were influencing me to be great in every way possible. So the rest of this post will be about my 5 women influencers of the year 2017.

Miss Goldust Afriyie
  1. Number one on the list is Miss Goldust Afriyie. OK this young woman… her name alone should make you aware of her integrity and radiance. She is so caring and selfless. I have never really met anybody as honest as Goldust and that is the truth. I have been friends with her for the past 2-3 years and she is always honest. One thing I admire about her is her transparency. She says it as it is and there is no beating around the bush. Throughout the year 2017, one very important lesson I learnt from her was to give to others whom could not necessarily give back to you. This selfless act of giving is one thing I have learned from my friend and sistter Goldust aka golding gold with a bit of golden dust. OH and she is a model! my friend is a model people.
Miss Angela Akosua Owusu-Sekyere

2. Number 2 is Miss Angela Akosua Owusu-Sekyere! My God this woman is after God’s own heart. No like literally, she is chasing after God’s heart and it is so beautiful to see a young woman of her caliber be so grounded in God. Angela’s relationship with God is one thing you notice when you meet her and it is very cool to see it so vividly. The first time I met her I was so shy of her because even the way she walks, you can see God in there (its that deep OK?) And to raise the bar even higher, she is a pharmacist and a youtuber and she runs a blog called: thebeautifulwomanofworth! Her youtube channel is called “Her Walk TV” where she talks about her walk with Jesus and it is so inspiring. She is a very beautiful young woman with a God ordained mission to share the good news! check out her youtube channel and blog and be inspired.

Miss Akosua Afrakoma Peprah

3. Number 3 of my top 5 women influencers of 2017 is Miss Akosua Peprah. Miss Akosua is an eloquent feminist! I feel like I could just end it there because well, being an eloquent feminist is a very big deal. However, Miss Akosua is also a really good writer with so much passion for the work that she does and it is clearly evident in everything she produces. Miss Peprah is a big advocate for the education of African girls and women because she believes that education in all aspects of life will help women achieve anything they want. Oh and I forgot to mention that she is such a bad ass at what she does that she is the founder and president of Mmaakunim Foundation which is an organisation with the vision of educating, creating avenues and making resources available to marginalized women in Ghana. The first time I came across her on Instagram, I became so mesmerized that I followed her on all social media platforms and I told a friend of mine that “I just found this lady on Instagram who is a Ghanaian and a feminist and eloquent!” For a while now, I’ve had the privilege to be part of the great vision of Mmaakunim foundation. So yes. I am working with Miss Akosua Peprah and I am going to be spending time with her, doing feminist stuff and being great and learning a lot from her. One thing she said in 2017 that made me aware that she is a woman of influence is that: “I am going to name my daughter Akosua Peprah jnr…” Miss Akosua is here on this earth to impact generations and we all need to just get ready for it.

Aunty Sarah
Mrs Sarah Senyah

4. Number 4 on my list of women influencers of the year 2017 is Mrs Sarah Senya. Now this woman throughout the year I have been studying her a lot and I have learnt so much from her that I am going to do an entire feature on her. She is a mother, a wife and a very busy financier at a top bank in the UK. Oh and did I mention she is the music leader at my local church? Yes, she leads the choir at my church every Sunday and she is a deaconess as well. When I’m with her, we often talk about marriage and the importance of finding a man who knows and love God as a suitable life partner. She has a super crazy faith in God and her commitment to the work of God in the church and serving others is really influential. She is very elegant in the way she carries herself (you should see her walk whilst carrying her child). One thing she said in 2017 that influenced me was that “Marry a man who can pray when you don’t have any strength to or even when you don’t feel like it”. Oh and her husband is very handsome so she’s basically got it all.

Priscilla Ayim
Mrs Priscilla Ayim

5. Finally, number 5 on the list of women influencers of the year 2017 is Mrs Priscilla Ayim. Before I start writing how great of a woman she is, I really feel like we should all stand up and give her a standing ovation.. Ok, so Mrs Ayim is just the real MVP. She is a great young woman of God and she is a new mummy with the most beautiful baby girl. Mrs Ayim is married and she is a graduate of Sociology and Psychology; with a Master’s degree in Social work. Okay, so Mrs Ayim used to help me when I was at university and I remember she would proof read my work and point out even the tiniest mistakes because she was not ready for me to produce my essays anyhow. She has a really accommodating character and you just naturally feel welcome around her. One thing I have noticed about her as well is her calm nature. She is very calm and collected. I look up to her a lot because God is at the foundation of everything she does and due to that she is winning in all aspects of life. Oh, one more thing… She is just beautiful and she loves God… Have I already mentioned that? Well She loves God. She is a woman of influence because she is living for God and she is not afraid to show it!

I learnt so much from so many women during the year 2017 and I am so proud to be a woman and to be surrounded by amazing women who are making impact in people’s lives. Whoever you are, I hope that you make an impact in people’s lives so that one day someone will say that you made a mark on this earth by influencing them.


Globalization don’t want my family to be…

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Globalization is the cause of the breakdown of the extended family.

OK, so I grew up in a 2 bedroom house with my mum, grandmother, 2 aunties, 4 uncles, grandfather, 2 cousins and a pet cat I had a love-hate relationship with. My great grandmother lived about 30 minute walk away from my house and all my cousins and other family members were only a 30- 40 minutes car journey away. I felt very close to all my family growing up because I saw almost all my cousins during family occasions such as weddings and funerals or they would just come round anytime they wanted because well… my grandmother cooked too often.

As well, I knew and understood the essence of family ties and looking out for my cousins even though I was the youngest out of all of them. I guess geography made it much easier to develop healthy relationships with extended family members. For example: I couldn’t wait for school to close for vacation during August because I knew I would get to spend over 3 weeks with my father’s side of the family and I would see all my other cousins and aunties and uncles and grandparents from that side of the family.

The funny thing is, I never missed anyone because I could see most of my family members all the time. My primary school was 15 minutes away from my uncle’s shop and it was also a walking distance to where my grandmother sold food on the roadside. Additionally, I always used to run into my aunties during break and lunch times and I would force them to buy me sweets or ice creams.


So much has changed! I mean obviously because we have all grown up and moved houses and even migrated to different countries. Right now, one of my aunties’ lives in Ukraine, I have an Uncle in Argentina and the rest of my family are in Ghana. The sad thing about it all is that we are disintegrated physically and it is having an indirect mental effect on all of us.

Globalization has changed the concept of extended family a lot. I mean growing up it sounded so great to tell someone that you had family members living abroad or even in Accra because when I was young I thought Accra was very close to London (only because it has a big airport). I remember I would do something bad at home and my mother would threaten me with telling my uncle who would easily walk like 20 minutes to our house and tell me to behave or he would not take me to Sunday school. Now it is very different, I am only close to my uncles when I call them or they call me because we are all so busy trying to make it that nobody has much time to invest in family ties anymore.

Globalization is probably to blame for this because if I was still in Ghana and living in the same town as I did growing up…then maybe I would still be close to all my family members. Well, I am not so sure of this either because even when I do go back to Ghana, it is difficult to see all my family members purely because it is not that easy to move from one city to the other to visit people. Moreover, people’s lives have changed massively due to employment, education, marriage and creating their own identities in various spaces and places.

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My only complaint is that globalization is slowly diminishing the role of the family in breeding individualism.  The idea of collective identity plays a major role in people finding their individual selves. For instance; the person that I am today is credited mostly to my mum and grandmother because of how they raised me up. At the same time, I know my geographical surroundings have played a significant part in my life experiences as well. Nonetheless, I know that the foundation of my individuality is grounded in where I come from- that is my family and also where I was born.

On the other hand, in contemporary society, the idea of the family is not as strong as it used to be due to factors like employment which has physically dispersed all of us over the face of the earth. At the same time, I know that geographical locations should not hinder us from committing to and investing in familial relationships; but it does and it is quite sad.

When I realized all this, I wanted to personally do something about my relationship with other family members. Of course, I acknowledge how much people have changed and grown into their individual  beings and how that will impact on the way I relate to them now. Regardless of all this, I think it is so important to invest in relationships with family members because people go through so much and the closest people to them are often the ones who knew nothing about them.

I know there will always be those few family members who are still holding grudges because of something your mother did to them even before you were born… that does not concern you my brother and sister. Just focus on trying to build good healthy relationships with the people around you. But if you get aunties, uncles or cousins saying they want nothing to do with you because your mother stole her boyfriend or her top when they were young (my mum and my aunties have petty fights over things like this lool) just forget it and pray for their soul.

The aim should be to make time for people now and not be there wishing we had when they are dead.


The year is almost over…


So 2017 is about to end… Time has gone by so fast during this year and I’m sitting at my desk at work right now wondering if I have been able to do everything I said I wanted to do at the beginning of this year. It’s funny because I am not even sure if I remember everything that I said I wanted to accomplish by the end of this year.

Well I remember going to church on 31/12/16 and I recall praying so much and telling God that I wanted to be able to serve him well in 2017. I said a lot of things to God on that day thinking that I was just going to sail through 2017 with no problems.

Well, I haven’t really encountered any serious problems when I think about it because I don’t really count certain circumstances as problems.

However, i know that I’ve had a really really good year. This year 2017 has given me so much time to do a lot. I had the time to self-develop mentally which has benefited me so much.


Throughout this year, God has taught me how to be faithful to myself regardless of the situation I find myself in. I mean I have locked myself in my mind where I’ve been so busy trying to figure everything out on my own and trying to come up with my own plan to my success story (you know because I wanna be great so bad lool).

On the other hand, as the year has progressed, God has helped me to understand the difference between being hardworking and trying to plan and execute my destiny. It’s like at some point during this year, I forgot that God has a predestined life for me and no matter what I do, God’s plan is going to prevail.

I mean having a predestined life does not mean I do not have to do anything. But, throughout the year, I’ve been able to rest- like my mind has had rest knowing that soon and very soon, I will become a professor of African studies, A UN secretary General a wife and a mum. Oh and I will also go on holiday to Cuba and Seychelles. There are probably more things I want to do but I can’t really think of all of them now.


But the whole point here is, I am not worrying about whether something will happen or it will not happen. All I know is that, I have faith in God and I am not going to fail in life. I am going to accomplish everything God has purposed for my life.

If there are things that you wanted to do this year that you have not been able to do – I personally suggest that you write those things down and give yourself sometime to consider the reasons why you were unable to not do these things. After that, please be honest with yourself and see if you can still do anything on the list before the year ends. It does not matter if it’s something little like walking more or something huge like getting a new job.

There are 11 days left in this year so you can definitely walk more and work on your CV ready to apply for jobs in the new year. Just don’t be like “oh the year is over so I’ll just forget about it”. If you do that, time will also forget about you- like how Sheldon forgets that other people have feelings (If you are a big bang fan, you know).

OK I’m gonna go back to working towards becoming great in every area of my life whilst enjoying every single bit of it. Please go and do the same… Unless you are Bill Gates or Oprah Winfrey.