My favorite place…

A quick disclaimer: I love talking. Specifically, I love talking about things I know a lot about. As well, I love telling people about myself- like a lot. When I was young, I used to love writing about myself- which is something a lot of people who went to primary school in Ghana had to do. So in this post, I am going to gladly tell you about my favourite place in the entire world.

Well, I have two favorite places to be in the whole world. However, my favourite place to be the most is at an airport. I love going to airports, The first time I went to an airport was when I was moving to England from Ghana.

The main airport in Ghana is KIA (Kotoka International Airport). I remember feeling so overwhelmed and very sad because within the next 6 hours (the time it takes form Accra to Heathrow airport), my life was going to change so much. I’m sure I will write about that experience another time.

Nonetheless, The second time I went to an airport was 3 years later and I went to Schiphol Airport in Amsterdam. Schiphol airport is my favorite place in the entire world (aside from Ghana, which is home so it doesn’t really count). I get so excited when the KLM flight lands there and the Dutch air stewards start to talk in English with their beautiful accents. I literally feel like I am home there (like lliterally).

So here are 3 things that make Schiphol airport my favorite place.

The places within the spaces

Schiphol airport is SOO big! And it is so funny because almost everytime I have been there to catch a connecting flight, there is some sort of engineering and expansion works taking place. The entire airport is like a little village. Without even considering the runaways for the airplanes to land, the inside of the airport is massive. The first time I flew there I was 16 and travelling alone so I was accompanied by a guide the whole time (something my dad paid for in order to secure my safety).

However, on my seocnd visit, I went crazy… I had like 3 hours before my next flight and I walked around the airport with the biggest smile on my face. I remember clearly that I visited a lot of their duty free shops (and they have a lot) with so much excitement even though I only bought like one chocolate bar for around 5 euros. Still, I was just amazed at the various places within the spaces of the airport.

One people, different colours

Another factor that makes Schiphol airport my favorite place in the world is the people that use the airport. Every single time I go there, I see so many different people. I remmeber the first time I was at Schiphol airport, I saw two children in the unaccompanied minor lounge from Namibia. They were dressed in bright coloured clothes and looked so curious and amazed just like I was. I recall being so happy seeing the children and the various other people from all over the world that it felt like I was at a world summit meeting.

As well, travellers and the satff at Schiphol airport always look so relaxed and I believe it is mainly because of the relaxed airport vibe Schiphol has got going on.

Final destination

My 3rd favorite thing about Schiphol airport is the fact that it is the airport in the middle. Schiphol airport is the middle man of flying because most of their flights are connecting flights. A lot of travellers go to Schiphol to change for another flight to their final destination.

From my personal experience, Schiphol is the best airport to catch a connecting flight because it feels like I am just getting off the plane to rest and have lunch or dinner there. Additionally, security is so tight at Schiphol that I feel really safe walking around relaxing whilst waiting for my connecting flight to my final destination.

I am yet to find another airport as fancy, relaxing and welcoming as Schiphol airport. Come to think of it… Birmingham airport is quite cool but… but I’ll save that one for later.

So in it all, my favorite place is Schiphol airport. Schiphol wins, I win. Now let us all go back to living our fulfilling lifestyles.

Being at peace


When I hear people say “I’m at peace with it/him/her/them/myself”, I often wonder what they mean by that because the word peace literally means the absence of disturbance or war. So if there is no war, there is peace. When there are no disturbances, there is peace.

So then to come to the conclusion of being at peace, there must have been some sort of disturbances or war that was ruining your state of tranquility. But then, I also think that there is this idea of being at peace where no matter the situation, you are still OK within yourself and you are okay with life.

Because, let us all be honest, sometimes life just takes us by surprise when crazy things happen and you don’t even understand why. Let me try and give you an example…

So recently, I realized that I was going out of my way to do things for people even though I was not OK with the things I was doing. I realized that I was not OK at all because my state of tranquility (being at peace) was really unstable. So like one day I will be very happy that I’m doing things for people; and then the following day, I will be so upset that I’m doing so much for people but they don’t seem to notice or care.

In order to restore my peace, I decided to pray about how I was feeling (oh and FYI, I PRAY ABOUT EVERYTHING). After praying, I just continued to get on with my day… and then… AND THEN… I had a URIKA moment! I mean it wasn’t that extravagant but I remember just becoming so conscious all of a sudden about my life and the kind of peace I have.

SO… wait for it….

I have the peace of God in my heart. The bible says that the peace of God surpasses all human understanding. Therefore, it is not understandable in our normal human minds. But I know that the peace of God is the best purely based on the fact that it is everlasting; and thus it doesn’t really go away when crazy things happen in life.

Another thing about the peace of God is that, it is present even in times of joy. To have peace when you are joyful is very cool. For instance, when I’m so delighted about something, I just thank God so much for his peace that He has given me because I don’t sit there thinking if I’m not not happy about this thing tomorrow, I will not be at peace.

Rather, I thank God that I am content and I have so much peace with where I am in my life now and I have peace about where I am going in the future.

I think you should try and assess the peace you have; is it temporary? Do you only have peace when everything is okay in your life? Is your peace stable? Are you at peace with the stage you are in life?




God loves FEMINISTS.

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OK.. so before I start being a feminist in this post, lemme just lay down the truth for you all.

I am a christian .i.e. I am a child of God and I love Jesus and I pray every time about everything and my ultimatum is to be able to spend eternal life in heaven with Jesus and God and all the angels. So I am a woman with a super crazy faith in God like mama Gifty Anti would say.

However, being a Christian does not make me blind to social issues. YAAAS! I said it and I’m gonna say it again for the people at the back… Being a woman of God does not make me blind and deaf to social issues.

As a Christian, I am always asking God what my role is in this world because I am clearly put here for a purpose. One of the main reasons why I am a christian and a feminist is because God tells me everyday that I am destined to be great.

So then I’m like but God if I was born to be great… how come I live in a world where my skin colour and my vagina are seen as characteristics of failure?. I literally asked God that question once. From that day, I knew that God had granted me the opportunity to do something about society’s lack of knowledge on women and our God ordained positions in the world.

So yeah, I am a feminist not because I hate men or whatever some people think feminism is about. Firstly, I am privileged to be a child of God and be given the voice to speak up when things are not right. And also as a woman, I don’t think being able to have babies should automatically turn me into a breeding machine who cannot work and get equal pay  to men.

It may sound strange but I pray everyday to God about being a feminist and how I don’t want to be angry about society’s mediocrity; but to make me more and more knowledgeable and approachable to everyone because I stand for equality for all.

At the same time, I ask God for motivation and determination each day to be a great woman by loving other women and accepting their differences, as well as helping them to acknowledge that their womanity is actually synonymous to greatness regardless of what anybody has to say.

Before I finish this post, I am going to say it one more time- I am a christian who is a feminist, who loves men and believe women are great in everything like men.

Now let us take it to church and start taking the tithes and offering from the back!!

The Anatomy of My Big Tall BLACK Body


I love my body- take it how you want to take it but I do not have any problem with my body. I say this with much confidence because I believe it has taken me about 5 years to come to the realization that I was born this way (Lady Gaga would be very happy to read this right now).

Let me explain-When I was 13 years old, I attended a high school where being a TALL, BIG, BLACK, FEMALE was a very big problem for all the average height, thin, blonde/brunette hair white females and males.

From that point, I started to question everything about the way I look- the colour and texture of my hair, the shape of my body, the sound of my voice (I have a very deep voice for a girl), my height, the colour of my skin… the list goes on and on.

At one point, I remember I lost so much weight due to wanting to be skinny like every girl in my year 10 class that my mum took me to the hospital out of fear of being anorexic.

This was me in January 2011. I was a size 6-8

This craziness of wanting to look like everyone else continued until I went back to Ghana for Christmas in 2010. I remember all my aunties and cousins were just disgusted with how skinny I had gotten (by the way in Ghana, my family and probably a lot Ashanti people associate being big with living a good life).

I remember one evening, my mum and my grandma sat me down and they told me that I am so beautiful and unique because I am tall and I have smooth black skin and I have a big bum and most importantly, I have an amazing voice because it is bold and clear (I think I need to be a radio presenter because of my voice).

I think since that day, I slowly began taking care of my body instead of hating it. So I say I love my body because I have the privilege of taking care of it. The thing is I don’t even remember the last time I said “I hate my body”, because the way I see it; If I do not like something about my body.. I am in a position where I can do something about it. For example; If i think  I’m putting on a bit of weight, I assess what it is making me put on weight then I take action by doing something about it.

Personally, I thank God for the mind that he has given me because I know that having a positive mind takes you a long way. Also, self love is KEY! Love yourself. I mean do not be ignorant about it but love yourself and learn how to appreciate the beauty in yourself and everybody. The thing about loving my body is when someone close to me is not feeling so confident about their body, I try my best to help by encouraging them to take control of their body and take action!

So yeah. love your body, love yourself and take action!.



Being a woman…..

OK so I am a woman (its sooo obvious). I mean my body makes it very clear that I am a woman (especially when it is that time of the mo.. yeah you know it).

One thing that I am very aware of is that being a woman is very interesting… to me being a woman is like a child’s first day at school. The parents are so excited because it is a new phase in the child’s life and they are going to meet new people and learn new things. At the same time, deep down the parents have to face the fact that their child is going into a world outside the home where they may not have that much control over what the child hears or sees.

Personally, as a woman, I am always so excited because I see the potential that I have to do great things; as well as the opportunities that come my way on a daily basis.

HOWEVER, deep down in my soul I know that as a woman there are certain limitations that society wants me to succumb to in order to be seen as a “good woman”. Even more, as a Black African woman, there are some people in society who think that I have to be eternally culturally bound if I ever wanna make it big in this world.

Don’t get me wrong, being a woman is like the best thing to ever happen to me since rice and spinach stew (one of my favorite foods). Nonetheless, sometimes I just think about how it can be seen as so unusual for a woman to want to pursue certain career choices or not want to do something that are known to be social norms for women.

The thing is, as a woman, I know I was created for a specific purpose and God being who He is will make sure I fulfill that purpose for his glory. But I really do not like how society has been able to turn our God given roles as helpers into some “without men you cannot survive” group.

The position of women has changed immensely since my grandmother was born and I get to benefit by being able to explore my womanity in my own way. On the other hand, women are still not seen as equal to men in many parts of the world and it is very upsetting. The humanity of women NEED TO BE RECOGNIZED before anything else because if God in his greatness recognize us women as human beings.. then who is anybody else to say otherwise.

If you are a woman, I pray that each and everyday you wake up, you get to see the great things you have been called on this earth to do. Whether your life goal is to become a mother, a wife, a pilot, a baker, or a president (just don’t become like Tru.. I wont even write his name).. get to know yourself well as a woman and go out there and be great.

Be faithful to your vision.


OK so I went to church on Sunday and it was Pensions week at my church so a retired Apostle came to preach about retirement and pension. First of all, i was so happy that my church which is filled with lots of young university students were given the privilege to hear about retirement and planning for the future from an actual pensioner.

I wrote so many things down on Sunday because everything the man said was so interesting in terms of planning for the future.

HOWEVER!! wait for it……..

He said one thing that made me think so much for the rest of my Sunday.

The retired Apostle said and I quote “young people be faithful to your vision!” At first, when he said it I wrote it down straight away because I thought mmm how does faithfulness come to play in my vision and goals? Literally when i got home and i finished eating I just kept thinking about that sentence.

One thing that I have come to terms with since Sunday is that I really have to be faithful to the goals and visions and purposes that are planted in me. The word faithful has words like consistency, steadfastness and loyalty attached to it. As a matter of fact, to be faithful means to be loyal to something or someone.

So.. to be faithful to my vision means to remain loyal and consistent to my purpose and goals and everything else that I have been brought into this life to do.

So right now, my question to you is… are you faithful to your vision? Or let me ask you this.. have you been loyal to all the things you want to achieve?

The thing is, sometimes it is so easy to make so many excuses or to come up with lots of issues that we see as hindrances to us achieving our goals and fulfilling our purposes. But one thing is that when you are not loyal and consistent to your goals.. you become a major hindrance to achieving your goals and visions.

Please do not become the reason why you do not get to do what you are called to do on this earth. I highly suggest you start committing to your goals and dreams. And no please do not find another excuse to say why you can’t focus and be faithful to what you believe it is that you need to do in this life.

So here.. these are a few I guess rough guidelines that I am trying to go by to ensure that I am staying faithful to my vision:

  1. I am always asking myself if what I want to achieve is going to be effective and bring about change.
  2. I am constantly trying to find diverse ways to understand my goals and to see each one of them as doable because I believe that God will not give me gifts and talents I cant make use off.
  3. I am always.. ALWAYS encouraging myself to stay motivated to fulfill my purpose and achieve my goals because I want to leave a footprint on this earth. I don’t care how it sounds.. I want to leave a mark and I want to be part of the change I want to see on this earth.

So after writing all this.. the point I am trying to make is that, be loyal to your goals and your visions and purposes and just everything you want to do in this life. Be consistent. BE FAITHFUL TO YOURSELF.